Just Married Exchange 2025: Letter
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lezridaxDear writer,
Thanks for creating for me - whether you are my assigned writer or creating a treat, I really appreciate it and can't wait to see what you've made!
General Preferences:
LIKES:
This varies a bit by fandom, so please see those specific sections (for instance, there are some specific fandoms/ships where I prefer darker stuff, and most stuff below is relatively fluffy/lighthearted) but here are some general ideas of what sort of fic I enjoy.
I love a lot of the fandom cliches, particularly Only One Bed, fake dating turned real, friends to lovers. Can never get enough of those.
I’m a big fan of reading about characters in a relationship growing as people together, discovering new sides to themselves, figuring out how to live or raise kids together, etc.
I like soulmate AUs a LOT so long as the characters still get some chance to develop feelings organically, whether or not they are already aware of their soulmate status. Stuff where they find out before they are in love and kind of fight it at first, but end up getting to know and falling for the person anyway — love it, can’t get enough.
Big into people falling in love with someone they'd never expect.
I really love outside character perspectives/reactions on a particularly unexpected relationship.
If you have characters from different cultures, countries, worlds, planets, etc. I really really love stuff that explores cultural differences in relationship norms (regardless of the nature of the specific relationship, I love this between friends, colleagues, etc. too as well as lovers) and where characters share their cultures with each other.
Some things I really like for smut fic: Oral sex, especially cunnilingus or rimming. Strap-ons. Motorboating, nipple play (no clamps though), boobs/chest focus. Marking, including/especially scent-marking but also stuff like leaving scars. Femdom in F/M. Creative and weird uses of non-human biology in sex in sci-fi and fantasy scenarios.
GENERAL DNWs, no exceptions:
ABO/Omegaverse of any kind| Ace/aro/demisexual/demiromantic headcanons | Animal death/abuse/harm | Autistic or neurodivergent headcanons as main focus of the story | Bathroom kinks | Breathplay or other potentially life-threatening kink | Child sexual abuse, including in backstories (unless it is canonical. Note that a character having been abused as a child in some other way does not mean that "child sexual abuse" is canonical) | Daddy kink | Detailed violence/torture/gore | Explicit physical abuse | Extreme underage (i.e. younger than the age when teens typically start having consensual sex IRL) | Feederism or other weight-fetishization | Focus on feminine grooming rituals (such as doing each others' hair/makeup) in F/F | Genital mutilation (such as sounding) | Issuefic. Feel free to give your characters strong opinions and explore fraught issues, but the key word there is explore; I don't want to feel like I'm being lectured to or taught a lesson | Jewish or Muslim characters with uncircumcised penises | Loss of intelligence/Flowers for Algernon plots | Making canonically LGBTQ+ characters cis/straight | Men domming women | Mpreg-specific: butt babies, surprise uteruses, or other stuff that's implausible to whatever fictional universe you're in | Negative/stigmatizing discussion of abortion | Pre-relationship/UST that never resolves in romance/ship fic | Pregnancy in a female character (unless in the background) | Rape/non-con | Sexual orientation headcanons that "contradict" their romantic and sexual relationships or "if it's you, it's okay" | “Soulmate AUs” where the main couple are not actually soulmates | Using feminizing terms for male characters | Women giving up their ambitions/careers/dreams for a relationship treated as romantic/desirable/ideal, especially in F/M
GENERAL DNWs, with specific exceptions for specific fandoms/characters:
Amnesia/memory loss (okay with this for Utena, as long as the memories come back by the end) | AUs that change the setting or central relationship significantly* (exception: a less-bigoted version of the canon is fine for historical fiction or historically-inspired fantasy like FE3H, but not modern AUs or otherwise moving them into a fundamentally different setting/time period. except with Faisal/Lawrence I'm fine with modern AUs!) | Lifestyle BDSM (okay with and in fact big into this with Faisal/Lawrence, so long as Faisal is the dom) | PIV in smut (this is not really my personal preference ever, but I'm fine with it in requested het ships unless otherwise noted, and taking my other smut preferences into account) | Trans/non-binary headcanons for focus characters (specifically headcanons, does not apply to canonically trans/non-binary characters) (exception: fine with it in any fandoms where it isn't prohibited in the signup, provided it isn't used to make same-gender combos F/M or to add in more PIV)
*Setting changes means like significant shifts in place/time or worldbuilding, like a sci-fi AU for a realistic fiction work, or moving a historical or futuristic work to the present day. It does not mean plot-divergence, or smaller worldbuilding changes (e.g. a soulmate AU) in an otherwise similar universe. You can use your best judgment on where to draw the line, obviously. "Central relationship" changes are stuff like changing people's ages, genders/sexes, species, etc. or "reversing" in-canon character dynamics (like giving characters each other's jobs or social roles).
Usually DNW, with broader exceptions for certain fandoms or ships, please look at the specific fandom:
Abusive relationships between requested characters/pairings/that are non-canonical | Big power differentials between members of the main couple in ship fic | Cheating on main couple in ship fic | Major Character Death | Whump/dark fic (as stated in some of the fandom sections, I'm never really a fan of full-on "Hurt No Comfort," but I'm cool with and even prefer darker themes for some fandoms)
Additional caveats:
Consent: Characters do not have to give explicit verbal consent to be considered "consenting." Characters being drunk/high/stoned is fine as long as they're both clearly into it, and as long as they're not clearly way past the point where they could say no IRL (just use your best judgment here, I'm just really tired of fics where one beer is treated like a "dubcon" situation).
Dubcon: I do not want any outright non-con/rape, but I am fine with some degree of dubcon as long as it's a situation where the person would be interested in that other person if they were clear-headed (or whatever the case may be), where it's more of a catalyst to acting on real feelings, and also where whomever is not "dubconned" isn't intentionally taking advantage of the other party. I prefer mutual dubcon, and I especially enjoy the classic tropes like "sex pollen," pon-farr/fuck-or-die stuff with sci-fi and fantasy races, etc.
Historical accuracy: I'm someone who has a strong interest in history, including in the periods for historical fiction works here. I don't expect exacting historical accuracy, but please don't get basic and broad things wrong: some examples would be which countries existed, having people use overly modern slang, etc. My one caveat is anything involving music, as that is my own area of academic expertise. If you're going to incorporate something involving music history or music trivia please make sure you really and truly know it (as in, are not just relying on something you saw online or you remember your high school band teacher telling you) because it will truly take me out of the fic if people get things wrong there! Characters talking about music, playing it, going to concerts, etc. is fine, but if they are going to make a fact claim about it, fact-check it if it's intended to be accurate (obviously, if you intend the character to be wrong or unsure, that's fine). (For the purposes of this exchange, this section applies most to A Dangerous Man: Lawrence After Arabia and The Gilded Age. FE3H is set in its own medieval fantasy world that I don’t expect to be overly similar to the historical Middle Ages any more than the original game is, so go to town.)
Fandom-Specific Preferences:
So I requested most of these for previous exchanges, and my preferences are pretty similar this time around! Here are the letters for those. Just keep in mind the marriage nature of this particular exchange when looking at these ideas/prompts:
Thanks for creating for me - whether you are my assigned writer or creating a treat, I really appreciate it and can't wait to see what you've made!
General Preferences:
LIKES:
This varies a bit by fandom, so please see those specific sections (for instance, there are some specific fandoms/ships where I prefer darker stuff, and most stuff below is relatively fluffy/lighthearted) but here are some general ideas of what sort of fic I enjoy.
I love a lot of the fandom cliches, particularly Only One Bed, fake dating turned real, friends to lovers. Can never get enough of those.
I’m a big fan of reading about characters in a relationship growing as people together, discovering new sides to themselves, figuring out how to live or raise kids together, etc.
I like soulmate AUs a LOT so long as the characters still get some chance to develop feelings organically, whether or not they are already aware of their soulmate status. Stuff where they find out before they are in love and kind of fight it at first, but end up getting to know and falling for the person anyway — love it, can’t get enough.
Big into people falling in love with someone they'd never expect.
I really love outside character perspectives/reactions on a particularly unexpected relationship.
If you have characters from different cultures, countries, worlds, planets, etc. I really really love stuff that explores cultural differences in relationship norms (regardless of the nature of the specific relationship, I love this between friends, colleagues, etc. too as well as lovers) and where characters share their cultures with each other.
Some things I really like for smut fic: Oral sex, especially cunnilingus or rimming. Strap-ons. Motorboating, nipple play (no clamps though), boobs/chest focus. Marking, including/especially scent-marking but also stuff like leaving scars. Femdom in F/M. Creative and weird uses of non-human biology in sex in sci-fi and fantasy scenarios.
GENERAL DNWs, no exceptions:
ABO/Omegaverse of any kind| Ace/aro/demisexual/demiromantic headcanons | Animal death/abuse/harm | Autistic or neurodivergent headcanons as main focus of the story | Bathroom kinks | Breathplay or other potentially life-threatening kink | Child sexual abuse, including in backstories (unless it is canonical. Note that a character having been abused as a child in some other way does not mean that "child sexual abuse" is canonical) | Daddy kink | Detailed violence/torture/gore | Explicit physical abuse | Extreme underage (i.e. younger than the age when teens typically start having consensual sex IRL) | Feederism or other weight-fetishization | Focus on feminine grooming rituals (such as doing each others' hair/makeup) in F/F | Genital mutilation (such as sounding) | Issuefic. Feel free to give your characters strong opinions and explore fraught issues, but the key word there is explore; I don't want to feel like I'm being lectured to or taught a lesson | Jewish or Muslim characters with uncircumcised penises | Loss of intelligence/Flowers for Algernon plots | Making canonically LGBTQ+ characters cis/straight | Men domming women | Mpreg-specific: butt babies, surprise uteruses, or other stuff that's implausible to whatever fictional universe you're in | Negative/stigmatizing discussion of abortion | Pre-relationship/UST that never resolves in romance/ship fic | Pregnancy in a female character (unless in the background) | Rape/non-con | Sexual orientation headcanons that "contradict" their romantic and sexual relationships or "if it's you, it's okay" | “Soulmate AUs” where the main couple are not actually soulmates | Using feminizing terms for male characters | Women giving up their ambitions/careers/dreams for a relationship treated as romantic/desirable/ideal, especially in F/M
GENERAL DNWs, with specific exceptions for specific fandoms/characters:
Amnesia/memory loss (okay with this for Utena, as long as the memories come back by the end) | AUs that change the setting or central relationship significantly* (exception: a less-bigoted version of the canon is fine for historical fiction or historically-inspired fantasy like FE3H, but not modern AUs or otherwise moving them into a fundamentally different setting/time period. except with Faisal/Lawrence I'm fine with modern AUs!) | Lifestyle BDSM (okay with and in fact big into this with Faisal/Lawrence, so long as Faisal is the dom) | PIV in smut (this is not really my personal preference ever, but I'm fine with it in requested het ships unless otherwise noted, and taking my other smut preferences into account) | Trans/non-binary headcanons for focus characters (specifically headcanons, does not apply to canonically trans/non-binary characters) (exception: fine with it in any fandoms where it isn't prohibited in the signup, provided it isn't used to make same-gender combos F/M or to add in more PIV)
*Setting changes means like significant shifts in place/time or worldbuilding, like a sci-fi AU for a realistic fiction work, or moving a historical or futuristic work to the present day. It does not mean plot-divergence, or smaller worldbuilding changes (e.g. a soulmate AU) in an otherwise similar universe. You can use your best judgment on where to draw the line, obviously. "Central relationship" changes are stuff like changing people's ages, genders/sexes, species, etc. or "reversing" in-canon character dynamics (like giving characters each other's jobs or social roles).
Usually DNW, with broader exceptions for certain fandoms or ships, please look at the specific fandom:
Abusive relationships between requested characters/pairings/that are non-canonical | Big power differentials between members of the main couple in ship fic | Cheating on main couple in ship fic | Major Character Death | Whump/dark fic (as stated in some of the fandom sections, I'm never really a fan of full-on "Hurt No Comfort," but I'm cool with and even prefer darker themes for some fandoms)
Additional caveats:
Consent: Characters do not have to give explicit verbal consent to be considered "consenting." Characters being drunk/high/stoned is fine as long as they're both clearly into it, and as long as they're not clearly way past the point where they could say no IRL (just use your best judgment here, I'm just really tired of fics where one beer is treated like a "dubcon" situation).
Dubcon: I do not want any outright non-con/rape, but I am fine with some degree of dubcon as long as it's a situation where the person would be interested in that other person if they were clear-headed (or whatever the case may be), where it's more of a catalyst to acting on real feelings, and also where whomever is not "dubconned" isn't intentionally taking advantage of the other party. I prefer mutual dubcon, and I especially enjoy the classic tropes like "sex pollen," pon-farr/fuck-or-die stuff with sci-fi and fantasy races, etc.
Historical accuracy: I'm someone who has a strong interest in history, including in the periods for historical fiction works here. I don't expect exacting historical accuracy, but please don't get basic and broad things wrong: some examples would be which countries existed, having people use overly modern slang, etc. My one caveat is anything involving music, as that is my own area of academic expertise. If you're going to incorporate something involving music history or music trivia please make sure you really and truly know it (as in, are not just relying on something you saw online or you remember your high school band teacher telling you) because it will truly take me out of the fic if people get things wrong there! Characters talking about music, playing it, going to concerts, etc. is fine, but if they are going to make a fact claim about it, fact-check it if it's intended to be accurate (obviously, if you intend the character to be wrong or unsure, that's fine). (For the purposes of this exchange, this section applies most to A Dangerous Man: Lawrence After Arabia and The Gilded Age. FE3H is set in its own medieval fantasy world that I don’t expect to be overly similar to the historical Middle Ages any more than the original game is, so go to town.)
Fandom-Specific Preferences:
So I requested most of these for previous exchanges, and my preferences are pretty similar this time around! Here are the letters for those. Just keep in mind the marriage nature of this particular exchange when looking at these ideas/prompts:
- Star Trek DS9: Star Trek Holidays 2023
- Fire Emblem: Three Houses: Purim Gifts 2024 for F/F ships, Just Married 2023 for all ships
- Revolutionary Girl Utena: Yuletide 2023
- A Dangerous Man: Lawrence After Arabia: Yuletide 2023
- The Gilded Age: This is my first time requesting this fandom! Go based on what my sign-up says, and know that my preferences are fairly similar to other period/historical fandoms other than that I'm not really into the AUs here. I want it set in the time period and setting of the show, and preferably fairly close to "canon." Caveat is that as of this writing, I don't yet know what season 3 has in store, so "close to canon" in the sense of "where the show is at at the end of season 2." But feel free to draw on the events of season 3 if you want! I'm sure I'll still love it so long as it still adheres to my DNWs from the sign-up. (And don't worry about spoilers: I'm a spoilerphile, and I'll also be watching this season week by week as it airs in the U.S.)
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